Nigerian women and their unpleasant journeys in finding "MR" Right.

In this piece which he posted on his Facebook wall,
comedian Alibaba discusses the Nigerian woman and
the challenges of finding Mr Right. Read below...
I have a serious matter at hand that I want to share. In
fact, I should have shared this long ago, but the primary
message from a friend that prompted the matter, was
lost in between the series of inbox messagesfrom those
strange girls that are looking for romantic friendships on
Facebook.
In a nutshell, a lady friend sent me an inbox message on
how it's harder to find a good man in Nigeria. And that
the men who are"manageable" (her words, not mine)
are so scarce and if you ever get them they are either
married to a lady that does not deserve them or just
repenting from a bad marriage from one of such women.
Or even just lost faith in the whole marriage thing.
Continue...I later ran into her at a club. After the usual
introductions that have become common place with
these social media network of friends... (You are my
friend on twitter, Facebook, Tango, INSTAGRAM... That
kind of thing).... I chatted with her a bit and found out
from what she told me, that, many women are now
settling for anything in between MR Right, MR Not just
ok and MR Nearly right. As she put it, it's now a case
of looking at what a guy checks out in the top 10 box...
And if he has 3 out of10, snap him up... Work on the
rest 7, if you are lucky, you can get him to add 3 more
of those top10 qualities... And begin to pray it lasts for
as long as you both can manage.
Much as I tried, to get her to rate me, she said, she can
only rate someone who is on her radar. So ladies have
relationship radar? Yes of course. You think you were
not in Mary's radar, and she waited for you to come
back after you... ? Ouch!!! (That was my guy who was
listening in on our private conversation) I wasn't on
Mary's radar.... I managed to mutter. Then she fooled
you wellllll. She quickly added.
It got me thinking... What does a man need to show to
get on any woman's radar? Money, sense of humor,
fame, dress sense, good job, intelligence, good diction,
good physique, some visible signs of affluence,
confidence,... She let me continue for a while, raised her
glassof Henessy VSOP, downed it, and said,"He must
first be AVAILABLE. Then you can begin to check out the
rest." So I asked, do I look available? She said, "Of
course, to the people who do not care if you are
married, you are very available! Not to me, OOO. Mary
was my boss at Platinum. So that strikes you out."
So I asked the next possible question, "so what can I do
to look unavailable?" There is nothing. You are even an
easy pick. She added. Any man who has a source of
income, popular, dresses well, tall, handsome small sef,
has a car, is in the circles of successful people, looks
like he has potentials to become somebody important
and can pay the bills...Our conversation started having
K-leg when she lit a cigar, not cigarette, Cubancigar
and started smoking.
I took a goodlook at her, and realized that, these women
who are looking for a MR Right all over Lagos, may just
have met him but he is also looking for a woman who
doesn't drink alcohol or smoke anything at all. That is
the wahala. As you are looking for MR right, he might be
dodging you because you are all shades of
wrong...While you are looking waiting for a guy to walk
in and fit into your radar, you aredoing some things that
also confine you to the "never my type" hemisphere...So,
in conclusion, just as good men are hard to find,
"manageable" ladies are unicorns!!!!
What is GOOSE for Uganda... Is GOOD for PERU